Dallis uses the strengths of team members to identify collective team assets and potential challenges. She also uses strengths to bring top leaders together even if their strengths appear to contradict one another. Dallis uses seemingly opposing strengths to build a stronger team of two. Dallis also focuses on the interplay between emotional maturity and maturity in one's strengths. She believes there is a connection between raw strengths and poor emotional intelligence, while mature strengths correspond to greater emotional intelligence.
Dallis also reminded listeners that everyone has two theoretical "rooms" -- an "appreciation room" and a "depreciation room." In the former, a person is reminded of all the good they have done and the traits people appreciate, while in the latter they are reminded of the bad things they have done and less admirable facets. Dallis said each room is true and authentic, but that every person needs to decide where they want to spend more time. Knowing and understanding one's strengths helps people live the majority of their lives in the appreciation room. Indeed, according to former Gallup scientist, Daniel Kahneman, each person needs at least five positive interactions to emotionally balance out one negative interaction. By spending most of one's time feeling appreciated by knowing and using one's strengths, a person achieves greater emotional health.
Dallis’s top five strengths: Activator | Positivity | Restorative | Ideation | Connectedness.