I’ll use a personal example. My No. 34 strength is Includer. I was in a two-day meeting with a client group, I admit this to you with some shame, when I realized I saw someone at the end of the second day for the first time. Because of my low Includer, I literally paid no attention to them if they were quiet. It’s because I lack that natural tendency to ensure that I pay attention to everyone in the room. But that doesn’t mean I’m trapped there. Here’s the trick:
2) then ask yourself, “How can I leverage the desire of one of my top five strengths to emulate the behavior I’ve just described?”
I do that by leveraging my No. 1 strength, which is Input.
Here’s how: I know that the mathematical chances of my meeting any individual in the room who has their top five in the same order as anyone else is one in 33.39 million. That means that everyone in the room has something to teach me because of their unique strengths configuration. So I intentionally say to myself, “Stephen, make sure you pay attention to everyone in the room because each and every one of them has something to feed your Input strength.” That motivates me.