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Last week on Theme Thursday we took an in-depth look at the Relator theme. Guiding us were Gallup’s Curt Liesveld and special guest Dr. Brian Brim, Gallup Senior Practice Consultant and author of Strengths Based Selling.
People especially strong in Relator talents form solid, genuine, and mutually rewarding relationships. Their relationships are close, caring, and trusting.
Over a quarter (28%) of people in Gallup’s strengths database have Relator in their top five, the third highest among all 34 themes. Those who have high Relator tend to value close, lasting relationships with friends and family. They often prefer informal relationships, as opposed to those with formal undertones, which can diminish the personal side of a relationship.
Relators are often at their best when they have one-on-one interactions with others. They care deeply for others, and seek people with whom they can develop long-term, meaningful relationships. Brian distinguishes Relator from Woo, stating that the two themes are unlikely to be paired together. He adds that Woo is more of the courtship, whereas Relator acts as the marriage.
Raw vs. Mature
People with strong Relator might describe themselves as somewhat introverted, as they are most comfortable around their own friends. This is an example of raw Relator. Mature Relator, however, takes it one step further by recognizing that, although they might prefer to be around their own friends, they are the most capable of providing these friends with the comfort and trust of a lasting relationship.
To hear more about the Relator theme and how people like Brian use it in their everyday lives, watch the full video above or the short theme video below.